Monday Mental Wellness Share

Monday Mental Wellness Share

 

After my first Monday Mental Wellness Share I got the opportunity to meet this inspiring lady from Blonderia Blog. Her blog is one really worth checking it out. Here is the Link. I love her culture section it is something I do not see on many blog. Enjoy her story below.

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My PCOS story

In 2014, at the age of 28, I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). It means that there are several cysts in my ovaries which cause hormonal imbalance. Though the illness itself doesn’t sound severe, if it’s left untreated, it can lead to severe health issues. PCOS can cause irregular periods, thyroid issues, insulin resistance, Type II diabetes, acne, obesity, heart disease, fatty liver syndrome, high blood pressure, male pattern hair growth, hair loss and infertility. In addition, it also makes the patient prone the cancer and heart attack.

The first red flag was the rapid weight gain I experienced after I finished university. In one year, I gained 14 kg. I also had adult acne but I didn’t really care about it as I could conceal it with makeup. In 2014, my husband noticed that I always felt sick two hours after meals. It was a huge red flag, so my gynaecologist performed a transvaginal ultrasound which confirmed the doctor’s suspicion: I had PCOS. As there have been diabetics in my family, I had to have an Oral Glucose Tolerance Test done and it turned out that I was also suffering from insulin resistance. My condition was so severe that my doctor told me that she could not help and I had to see a specialist to start treatment as soon as possible. I went to see an endocrinologist who told me to start a low-carb diet and lose 16 kg. I had to take metformin, transform my lifestyle, pay extra attention to what I was eating and I started to play squash twice a week. I lost 10 kg in 3 months and 3 more in the following 3 months, so I got rid of 13 extra kilos altogether. A year later, my husband and I decided to start a family. I had a series of blood tests done and it turned out that I was suffering from hypothyroidism as well. It means that there isn’t a sufficient amount of thyroid hormone in my body. It causes infertility or if you manage to get pregnant, you have an increased risk to miscarry or the baby might be born with a birth defect. I had to take medicine to stimulate my thyroid and I also had a check-up every 4-6 weeks.

 

  1. What do you find is the hardest part of living with PCOS?

The hardest part for me is the fact that it’s invisible and when I say that I can’t eat this or that, people don’t understand why because I don’t look ill and they think that I don’t really need this diet, I’m just picky and a drama queen.

 

  1. What makes the bad days better?

Thanks to all the treatment I got and the transformation of my lifestyle, I gave birth to a healthy baby girl in November 2016. On bad days, I look at her, the result of all my efforts. She reminds me that I am stronger than my illness and I have to keep doing what I’m doing to be as healthy as possible for as long as possible.

 

  1. What do you want people to know about PCOS?

I want people to know that it’s a severe illness, patients don’t make it up. If you suffer from it, I want you to know has to be treated even if you don’t want children. Weight loss and regular exercise and a healthy diet are important in managing this illness and they also boost your immune system.

 

  1. Do you find you are treated differently?

Food is an essential part of Hungarian culture. In my country, people are often proud to eat unhealthy food, so I’m definitely treated differently with diet that contains lean meat, a lot of vegetables and no refined carbohydrates. I no longer like family meals because I feel odd and excluded.

 

  1. What advice would you give your younger self about your journey with PCOS?

When I was 17, I had a dermatologist’s appointment and the doctor noticed that my acne wasn’t that typical teenage acne. She printed out my medical record and wrote “PCOS?” on the paper and told my mom to take me to a gynaecologist’s appointment. She didn’t. So my number 1 advice for my younger self: “Go and get checked by a gynaecologist”. Advice 2 would be: “Never stop exercising regularly”.

 

 

Lagom

Lagom

Not too little, not too much, just right

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I knew I had heard this quote somewhere but for the love of me I could not remember where it hit me one night, it is from Goldy Locks. It amused me that the best way to translate a word was to use a kids book. It is, however, the perfect quote for the world Lagom.

Lagom is a way of living and it is taken from Sweden. Now the reason it interested me so much is that Sweden has the high percentage of happy people so they must be doing something right. Being someone who struggles from depression I find being happy so hard and right now I am going through an even harder time. I decided to see what the Swedish people were doing to make them so happy and the one term that kept coming up was Lagom.

Lagom is a change to one’s whole life and the way they think too.  It is about creating an appreciation for what one has, it is about living a balanced life that is fair and less complicated. Through this approach to living one also looks out for the environment by creating less waste and buying eco-friendly products. By having less one is meant to have less stress in their life and it is meant to create more freedom which sounds great. Also by having fewer things around one, it is meant to clear out the mind. This is something that I really could use.

Lagom in a house is no clutter, clean spaces and more nature. If one were to decide to try this out there a few tips on the decluttering side

  1. No doubles of things. No need for two salad bowls that look the same.
  2. If it is broken get rid of it.
  3. If it has not left the closet in two years it goes
  4. If it does not fit that stunning figure it goes
  5. If it does not bring you joy it goes
  6. If you do not love it, it goes
  7. If it was a gift that you do not really like, it goes

When I say it goes that does not mean you need to throw it away you can give it away too. This really forced me to clean out my room, I still live at home so I do not have a ton of control. But my room is my space that I can control. What i also enjoyed was the idea that it gave me a chance to only keep what I liked and not feel guilty when giving things away.

Lagom also comes into play with how one eats. You eat the right amount for your body and you eat more simple based foods. Less processed foods and frozen foods which is good for anyone’s health.

Another aspect of Lagom is to save money by buying less. You also then spend money on good quality so therefore it lasts and you do not end up spending unnecessary money. For example, you buy a good quality coat and it lasts ten years, yes it has cost you more but in the long run, you save. You do not have to buy a coat every year because it keeps breaking. Lagom is also about classic style, buying what style works for you and is timeless.

Lagom looks at one’s work/life balance, are you just living to work or are you working to live. Do you get to explore the world the way you want to or is your job keeping you down. Are you happy or is work making you so unhappy that it affects your personal life too.

The minimalist approach to life fits in nicely with Lagom. Lagom at the end of the day is about having only what you need to free up time and space. To give you a chance to live more through experiences and not worry so much about material objects. Ill keep you up to date on how my transfer is going.

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Being 21 in a changing world.

Being 21 in a changing world.

“and suddenly you know… It is time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings”

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South Africa has always been my home, I have never lived anywhere else. I spent my life growing up wanting to leave and wanting to live in a “better” country. However, now that I am 21 I sit here and think is there a better country?

I was born after Apartheid which means I was born into a free and equal South Africa. The reality, however, is that there is no such thing as a completely free or equal country. I remember when I was in school and everyone was talking about Nelson Mandela and I had thought he had already died, I also thought Micheal Jackson was dead when I was 10.  That was the first time I was made to be aware of the political happenings in my country. I remember how teased I was that I did not know Nelson Mandela was still alive, so I made sure I knew what was going on after that.

The next big thing I remember was Zuma coming into power and everyone was talking about his shower scandal and all his corruption. I did not really understand why, if he had so many bad things about him, he was our president. The whole thing had me very confused.

In about grade 9 we were talking about black and white, how the black got “advantages” now because they were “disadvantaged” before. I got the concept but how it was executed made me so angry. In school, the black girls would shame me for being white, accuse me of destroying their lives, make note this was a private school they could pay for and they drove cars that cost nearly a million bucks. The point is I was angry because it was not me who did anything yet I was being punished. This is when I decided I would be moving as soon as possible.

Grade 12 came and with that applications for varsity. This is when I really started to get angry when I was told there was a quota that had to be met when accepting students and that meant I might not get in. I remember how angry I was to find out that someone with marks lower then mine would get in over me because of my skin colour.

University opened my eyes to how our government was a total waste and could not do anything worthwhile. Here was our president with an R500 000.00 house and so many people dying from hunger. I started to pay attention to the news to try and understand what was happening, all this did was make me realise all the countries are in trouble. There was America electing a man who abuses women and thinks its okay, the UK being attacked more and more by terrorists and now the rest of Europe not being that finically stable.

This all hand me in a panic of where do I move to? I felt like I could not stay in South Africa because firstly teachers do not get paid or treated that well and secondly I am competing against a race war. I understand the need to equal things out but in this process, a generation that did nothing is being punished, my generation. Then change started.

Zuma was under pressure and soon the ANC had elected a new leader but the country still had Zuma as president. The new ANC leader was said to be great and would help mend the country. I was excited, I knew that I would like him if he had the strength to take over from Zuma. But he did not, he took his sweet time, in this time I came to wonder if he is really the leader we need as a country.

It is hard being 21 with your whole life ahead of you and not knowing where is best to go. I am about to build a life but I do not know where to because I do not know firstly where is it safe and secondly where is the best economically to invest. People want to go to America but for me with that leader, no thanks and today alone marks the 18th school shooting in 2018. England has always appealed because its cold but the bombings and car killings put me off. When I look at it like this I wonder maybe sticking it out with my own countries issues is the best. Why move to a new country to inherit more problem.

Would I buy it again?

Would I buy it again?

Another Dischem last minute sale item that I could not help but buy.

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The overall look of this product is rather pretty and neat. I enjoyed how simple it was and easy to know which product it is. I also found that the concealer squeezed out rather nicely. The applicator was a sponge on the end of the tube which was really easy to use and soft on the skin.

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The product

I can not decide if I love it, hate it or just find it okay. I found the shade to be very pink in its undertone. I found that it did not cover up my under eye designer bags very well and my red spots also were still very visible. I also found that my powder did not sit well on this product. If I did a light brushing it was okay but one would not be able to bake over it.

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I can not say that I would recommend this or that I would buy it again.

Valentines for one?

Valentines for one?

I dont like valentines day as you probably already know. But i will not ignore the fact that it is a holiday. Not everyone has a partner to spend the day with. I am single and I do not love or hate valentines day. We are so willing to love others on this day why do we not spend the day loving ourselves.

Here a few ideas to do if you are alone this valentines day and decide to show yourself some love.

  • A bath with some candles and bubbles, this is always so relaxing and makes me spend some time alone and with me.dec1a6394407f699f795187bc6d18581.jpg
  • Put on your favourite PJs that are comfy but also make you feel pretty. Sometimes we wear old tops and PJs with holes. Try to get a new pretty pair this will make yourself feel more loved.
  • Make your favourite dinner if you love to cook. If you do not love cooking order your favourite meal.
  • Watch your favourite show or movie. If you do not have one here are some ideas that always make me laugh and even better they show women empowerment.
    • Legally Blonde
    • The devil wears Prada
    • Clueless
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  • Have a glass of wine of that is what you like.

Take the evening to treat yourself and do some simple little things that make you happy.

 

These pictures are not mine. Please note that they are from Pinterest and are only used to display ideas.

Pomegranate mask

Pomegranate mask

I got a mask from the brand The Saem which is a brand i have been sample testing. I was amazed by the egg and baking powder foam and i have to say i am rather amazed by the mask too.

This is a Natural Pomegranate Mask Sheet which is filled with vegetable oils that are meant to help add moisture to the skin.  The mask is so simple, just put it on and leave for 20 – 25 minutes and then massage in the left of serum on your face.

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I enjoyed the mask and found it very cooling on my face. I wore it for 25 minutes and found that it made my face feel so smooth. I found it to be a rather strange experience as i dont really do sheet masks. When i opened the mask and took it out there was so much liquid. It was running down my next, i just thought disaster. When i took the mask off it was basically dry and even though it felt like my skin had a whole lot of liquid on it it was actually dry, in the way when one has just put face cream on dry.

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I was super impressed by this masks. The next day my skin still felt lovely and soft.

Versatile Blogger Award

Versatile Blogger Award

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I have to say a very big thank you to the beautiful Maddie from Tiger Lily Diary for nominating me for the Versatile Blogger Award. Being nominated truly put the biggest smile on my face. Here is her blog that you should totally check out Tiger Lily Diary

What is the Versatile Blogger Award?

Basically, the Versatile Blogger Award is a chance to show appreciation to bloggers. When I started blogging I had no clue how much work it would be and how much of my time it would take up. This award is there to support bloggers and share many other bloggers. When one is nominated they can choose to accept the award and then nominate 15 other bloggers with unique and high-quality content.

The rules to accept this award are simple:

– Thank the person who nominated you, and link their blog. There are millions of blogs out there, and somebody chose yours!

– Nominate 15 bloggers to keep spreading the appreciation.

– Share 7 facts about yourself.

My seven facts

  1. I am crazy scared of snakes
  2. My favourite colours are white, black and grey, slowly starting to love baby pink
  3. I love stationery a lot
  4. My favourite food is sushi
  5. I don’t like mushrooms
  6. I have glasses
  7. I am terrible when it comes to replying to messages

The 15 bloggers I nominate

@wellnessandwander

@thedairyofellie

@lazyblogging

@ramblingsofablonde

@palegirlranbling

@findthebeautyy

@simplysplendid

@anotherlittlebirdie

@nataliehansblog

@jasminsworld

@elliekblog

@exhalestresswiththoughts

@helensjourney

@cacoco

@nothingbutauthentic